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The Secrets of ‘The Secret’

The Secret


The Secrets of ‘The Secret’ – A Review of the book “The Secret”
the secret

‘The Secret’ is a best selling and world renowned self-help book written by Rhonda Bryne. The book explores and condenses ancient knowledge from all over the world; knowledge that has inspired and transformed people for hundreds, maybe even thousands, of years.

In this book you will learn about the power of attraction and positive thinking.  The secret is…that the power to change yourself, your life, and even the world is within you right now.

Reading this book encourages this extremely powerful part of yourself to awaken so you can become the person you were always meant to be.  ‘The Secret’ explains the power of positive thinking and how your thoughts actually create your reality.   So if you are filling your live with positive energy through positive thinking, you will inherently create a positive existence for yourself and those around you.  In a nutshell, the universe gives you (creates into your life experiences) what you focus and think about most.

‘The Secret’ explains how and why we attract people, places, situations or things into our lives just by what we are thinking; by sending out thoughts of positive energy and abundance you will receive the same in return.  It’s kind of like a boomerang effect, whatever you send out comes right back to you.

Frequencies: Law of Attraction
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The whole movie is based on the concept of the law of attraction. Basically what that is, is the idea that energies attract similar energies. For example, a very negative person with typically negative thoughts would attract negative things to happen


While ‘The Secret’ explains this phenomenon with pin-point accuracy and a scientific approach, the benefits of positive thinking have long been documented in some of the world’s most prominent religions, philosophies, and cultures.  Furthermore, mainstream science is now revealing amazing findings in regards to the benefits of positive thinking and also the power of attraction.  Practicing and perfecting the art of positive thinking could lead to a transformation in your life, as many readers have claimed.

If you are having a hard time believing in the power of ‘The Secret’, it might help to think about the laws of nature.  Such as, every action in the natural world causes an equal or greater reaction.  Of course, this applies to us as well…even down to our thoughts. Every single thought we have is bound to create an effect somewhere, somehow.  So, if the law of cause and effect applies to everything in nature it must also, by default, apply to us humans as well.

The benefits of positive thinking include improvements in health, wealth, relationships, and career.  The most profound aspect of these teachings is that it emphasizes how you are always in control of your thoughts and therefore your life.  There is no “good luck” or “bad luck”;  the power to live the life you always dreamed is within you at all times and is simply waiting to be found and explored.





Happiness – Can The Research Be True?

Holistic Happiness

President Abraham Lincoln once said

“Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be”

holistic happinessNot very long ago the scientific field thought that each person is born with their own set “happiness level” and once this level is set at birth, it could never be noticeably changed.  Those old theories of one’s happiness level have recently been turned upside down.  New research is proving that happiness is not static but in fact is fluid.  One of the foremost researchers in this burgeoning field of positivity is researcher, lecturer and author Dr. Barbara Fredrickson

One important point to make about happiness is to dispel the myth that a person cannot change their happiness level.  Conventional science has always taught that our happiness level is set by the random influence of genetics, and once set there was very little we could do to make a lasting impact.

It wasn’t until the end of the 20th century with groundbreaking research findings from doctors Fredrickson , Sonja Lyubomirsky, Martin Seligman and others, that the scientific community started realizing that we humans have much more control over our own personal happiness than previously thought.  In fact recent research evidence has proven that we have as much is 40% of our holistic happiness factor is within our personal control.

holistic happinessAnother important point to discuss is

the media “encouraged belief that happiness is achieved with the acquisition of things.  Happiness through hedonism, or “the indulgence in sensual pleasures” ( caters to the thought happiness is achieved when you get that dream car, or job, birthday gift, or something else.  While there is some truth to this because a sense of happiness is improved, the happiness level improvement is relatively short-lived.  And in fact acts of charity and helping another person out, which is the opposite of hedonism, brings about one of the greatest and longest lasting improvements to holistic happiness.

The third widespread miss-belief is :

… the notion of a “one size fits all solution” encouraged in our media.  Consumers are targeted by advertisers to take their pill, by this diamond ring for Christmas, join that weight loss program, or buy these fashionable clothes in order to be happy like the smiling people in the commercials.

holistic happinessWe as consumers are told we should meditate, volunteer at a local animal shelter, and try this herb or “medication du jour” to cure all your problems.  However, it’s important to remember that each person is a unique individual, and what brings joy to one person may feel like a punishment to another.

For instance one person may delight in 30 min. of quiet meditation in front of a fireplace. That same activity, sitting still for 30 minutes, may feel torturous to another person.  Perhaps the active person may enjoy a moving meditation like  tai chi  much more.  Or the person who is allergic to cats may prefer volunteering one hour a week at a nearby nursing home rather than at an animal shelter.


The Dalai Lama Speaks - Secular MeditationThe Dalai Lama Speaks – Secular Meditation
The video introduces you to the basic techniques of meditation as recommended by one of the best known and most respected spiritual leaders of our times — H…


So to conclude, the conventional wisdom told to you about improving your happiness may well be wrong in light of new exciting evidence.  The truth is, you can improve your holistic happiness (happiness through non-chemical means) quite a bit, even without medications.  And if you need some medications to help you along too, that’s ok.  Some people do not produce the chemical endorphin s and neurotransmitters in quantities that they need.   And don’t believe any stereotype ideas of what you think meditation is or has to be, because you may well be wrong.   So open your heart, open your mind and seek more information on this path to holistic health happiness.



Happiness – How To Be Happy In The Middle Of Winter?


How To Be Happy and Positive In The Middle Of Winter?

Winter can be a challenge for some people in terms of happiness. The weather gets worse, there is less sunlight and it’s cold. This can make anyone feel worse, especially if you prefer sunny days and a hot temperature. However, there is no reason why the winter months can’t be happy months for you, and here are a few ideas that can help you make the most out of any winter.

The first tip is not to stay home all the time. While the weather may not be very inviting, staying at home can lead to feelings of being trapped or isolated, so it’s important to plan  time to go out.  You may actually enjoy the crispness of a sunny walk  in the park, but you can also try going to a cafe, to an ice rink or even just to the mall.  Don’t forget a fun weekend evening at a local basketball game followed by a pizza with friends.

happiness There are also many outdoor activities that you can try in the winter, such as skating, skiing or building a snowman.

Going outside and getting some fresh air even if just for 15 minutes is very revitalizing!  You will feel more active and full of energy.  Take the dog for a walk; s/he will have a blast!

The winter is a time where some of us feel lonely, and in the middle of winter this feeling can intensify. However, winter can be a time for connecting with others. Even if you didn’t meet everyone you know around the holidays, you can still find time to get in touch. Social connections are very important for our happiness, so reaching out to friends you haven’t heard from in a while can be a good tip to make you feel happier during the winter months.


happiness A third tip is to focus on the positive, not the negative sides of the season.  There are certain activities that you simply can’t do during the summer months.  Knowing there are only a few months of the year that you can enjoy a fireplace makes it something special to look forward to.   Also be sure to mix it up.  One week have a special night where you perhaps roast marshmallows and watch a movie.  Another week you may invest in a new board game to play.  Try inviting friends over for a Winter Doldrums evening of socializing.   You may consider trying seasonal recipes at specialty coffee shops or restaurants.

The important thing is, find  those features  about winter that you enjoy and allow yourself to have some little pleasures that can brighten up your day. Even the small things can make you feel much happier if you take the time to define what these are and to enjoy them.

happiness Winter may be a time where you need to take care of yourself with special care.  While it’s always good to stay healthy, in the cold it can be more important.  So even if you feel a little apathetic, it’s a good idea to keep an exercise schedule, eat healthy and dress for the weather.  If your health is in a good state, you’re much more likely to enjoy the winter and stay positive.

If you feel especially depressed, lethargic and sad during the winter, and if you can say this often happens to you, you want to consider seeing your doctor.   Seasonal depression affects quite a few people, especially of Scandinavian decent, and is directly related to the lack of sunlight.  Even if you don’t have seasonal depression, you may consider exposing yourself to sunlight whenever you can and taking supplements to make sure your body is producing enough D, which is related to sunlight and has a role in our energy and mood. Vitamin D can give you a boost if you’re feeling especially sluggish.

happiness A good way to stay positive and happy is to start a new indoor project to occupy your mind.  The winter can be great time to start a project, such as a home improvements, an art project, trying new recipes, or any of those things you have on your “to do someday” list.   It’s likely that this will give you a way to keep moving, stay busy and feel a lot of satisfaction from being productive and seeing the results of your work when you’re done.

Another good way to happiness is to find a way to give back. You can try volunteering or dedicating your time to any social project you’re interested in. This is a strategy that has scientifically proven benefits for our happiness levels and is likely to help you feel much better.

For more information on the science of positivity and raising our ‘happiness’ score, check out this interview series by one of the leading researchers on happiness and positivity;  Dr. Barbara Fredrickson.

In conclusion, there are a lot of ways you can stay positive during winter despite of anything the weather throws at you. You can try many different things and see what works for you to help you stay happy even in the middle of the winter.




TED talk on Happiness

Holistic Health Happiness – Push Through Fear to Find Happiness

Holistic Health Happiness


Science of Happiness

Some people believe that attaining happiness is the main purpose of life, yet the quest for happiness typically stresses people out.  This is due to the fact that joy and happiness are in fact,  ultimately realized not by “things” that we acquire, but it starts with loving and accepting ourself.   The pursuit of happiness actually starts with learning how  to enjoy ourselves and others; and build holistic health happiness from the inside out.

If attaining joy is what you seek,  you can try several options:

1) You may seek temporary pleasure, thinking that long term joy and happiness are hidden within many moments of fleeting pleasures all strung together.  For folks who believe this theory,  they may seek joy and happiness through elements such as liquor, drugs, nicotine, or food. Or you could seek joy through activities such as sex, or gambling.

2) If however, you think that your joy and happiness is related to how much money you have or big expensive items you are now able to afford, then you may seek happiness by investing a lot of your time building a powerful career, along with accumulating large savings and investing accounts.

3) Finally, if you believe that your joy is related to people and friendships, you could seek the love, approval, interest, admiration, or recognition of others.

While brief pleasure feels excellent, it is simply short-lived, meaning that that you will need to keep repeating those actions you believe will certainly bring you joy.   The problem is that none of these pursuits will bring you deep and sustaining joy or happiness, since their effect is consistently short-term.

Real happiness is not so much a result of DOING something as it is a means of BEING.   So in other words, rather than focus on accumulating things you should focus your attention toward your state of “BEING”.  Happiness  is the outcome of your focused intent to evolve daily as a loving human being, accepting yourself and others.

So what exactly does this imply?

This indicates that recurring joy is the outcome of choosing the spiritual course of kindness, compassion, understanding, and also acceptance.  It means learning how to think differently, and look at situations differently.

Yet it is not enough to just share kindness and  compassion towards others.  Lots of people have  attempted to be kind, but find they still wind up feeling vacant, as well as angry when the deep happiness they desire alludes them.

The path toward joy and happiness starts with being open  to finding out how to be more loving as well as thoughtful toward YOURSELF.  We can have all the material things that people think will bring joy and happiness; money, a great social life, a loving family, work you delight in, etc. Yet if you are  critical toward yourself instead of accepting and caring when it comes to yourself, you will never find lasting happiness.

Imagine a young man who has almost everything one could imagine; a big boat,  stellar  college education,  he enjoys wonderful vacations, and has tons of friends.  However imagine that this young man has parents who never made him feel loved or important, or who were judgmental and/or controlling.  He will likely suffer depression or feelings of low self esteem, regardless of the number of external “things” he owns.

Neglecting one’s emotional needs or constantly judging one’s self will ultimately lead to sadness, no matter how much you have invested in the external surroundings or just how nice that person is to others.   Until you decide to start treating yourself the way you want others to treat you, deep as well as lasting joy and happiness may elude you.

If you would like to experience real happiness, begin to take note of your own emotions and take note of exactly what you are doing that is creating discomfort and sadness. Do you mentally tell yourself “I can’t do that” or “I am not good enough”? Once you are willing to take full, 100% responsibility for your own feelings, and also take action regarding what truly brings you joy, you have taken the first step toward lasting happiness.
I think you will enjoy this TED talk about The Science of Happiness.

Some people believe that attaining happiness is the main purpose of life, yet the quest for happiness typically stresses people out. This is due to the fact that joy and happiness are in fact, ultimately realized not by “things” that we acquire, but it starts with loving and accepting ourself. The pursuit of happiness actually starts with learning how to enjoy ourselves and others.